Foster Arizona Community Blog

Educating & Empowering Arizona's Families
23
Jul

Moving from Foster Parenting to Licensing

As a previous foster parent, I can empathize with new families as the process can be daunting.  We have all heard the horror stories we all have heard of a friend of a friend that had a terrible experience. I too had heard those stories, but they did not align with what I had seen and known. My parents had become licensed foster parents a couple of years after my last sibling moved out. They had several children enter their home before being reunified with their families. After over 7 years, the experience had been tough but rewarding for not only them, but for us as we gained new siblings.

After moving to Arizona and seeing the news reporting on the need for foster parents, I decided to investigate fostering. I fostered for about 5 years and had 17 children that entered my home during that time. I was fortunate to have built relationships with some of the bio families, which is a blessing as that is not always the case.

I was often frustrated with the process and the intrusive nature. Since becoming a Recruitment Coordinator, I have been able to gain a new perspective. It can seem overwhelming with the paperwork, doctor physical, training, and meeting with a family specialist or licensing worker to answer questions for the home study. I have come to understand that though at times it can be too much, it is necessary.

The process is designed to help you better understand your family and how a child entering will be an adjustment for everyone. The children have experienced some form of trauma, which is often neglect, that most of us have not had to experience. The trainings help foster families develop skills in working with children with trauma. The trainings can also assist with your own children, I often would use parenting tricks to apply to my children.

Unlike your Family Specialist or Licensing Worker, the state is not meeting with you personally. The process allows them to gain insight into your family and to know you better. This also helps your licensing agency match your family strengths with the needs of a child in care. When a child enters foster care, the goal is reunification. DCS works to help parents gain the skills and tools needed to provide for their child/children. Many bio parents have not had the opportunity to learn coping skills that many of us take for granted when facing adversity. DCS works tirelessly to identify the needs for each individual family and put in place the supports needed. Unfortunately, reunification is not always the case but there are loving safe homes waiting to adopt.

My recommendation is to go with the flow and to focus on the big picture. You will be helping to change a life and possibly a family tree. The children will be able to see that their normal does not have to continue, that there is something different out there. That they can shape what their life can be, that they have no limits. In my experience, I walked away with so much more than I felt I provided the children. The struggle is real but with stability and consistency the children thrive.

The system is not perfect, as community members, potential foster parents, or current foster parents we all have a voice and can advocate for change. If fostering is something that you feel you are not ready for there are other ways you can help. Become a CASA volunteer and help to mentor children in care. Join the Foster Care Review Board and provide valuable feedback to the court on current cases. Volunteer to assist agencies provide school supplies or holiday gifts.

 

Maria Villalobos

Recruitment Coordinator at A Place To Call Home

 

1 Response

  1. Carolyn walker

    I sure foster person can be good for some children, but for me the best place is with a loving, caring parent . When it come to DCS they have and are liers to me, my grand daughter and daughters. Thank God for the moral God fearing people to take these children in their homes and show them love and compassion. My grand children have been taken away from their mother. I am the maternal great grand mother and would easly get my babies, but what did DCS do they didn’t even try to contact the maternal side. They have treated my grand children as a criminal and have placed her babies with
    God knows who. May baby girl has been violated and DCS had a doctor that they used to say she was ok. After all who can contest them. Heck they won’t even talk with you. They say they can only speak with the mother. They only give her the run around and say they’ve spoken to mom to me or my grand dauther’s mother by an replied bot email. Every parent is not guilty of causing harm to their children. I encourage you to goole DCS of AZ. Every body is not evil to their children. My Great grand children have been put in a home with a monster ei rashes intween baby girls legs, sores and raw, fecal matter residue, and left smelly. One of my babies her mother said she had an opening in her vagina. DCS is the worst for abusing children and traumatizing them. The police were called and they have yet to get back with my granddaughter about the report. DCS isn’t for the well being of the parents and many people like me said they have had a long legal battle to try and get their children back. They are not interested and reunifing the children back. There has been retribution for speaking out against them. I pray for all the wonderful people who truly care and want to help. DCS is a evil organization. I spoke with a caseworker who had no clue of what they were a part of.

Leave a Reply

You are donating to : Foster Arizona

How much would you like to donate?
$10 $20 $30
Would you like to make regular donations? I would like to make donation(s)
How many times would you like this to recur? (including this payment) *
Name *
Last Name *
Email *
Phone
Address
Additional Note
Loading...
X